Why does it seem that people are able to talk about someone they hardly know so well but those close to them are full of weaknesses?
It’s actually a privilege to know someone’s weakness. We often can see someone’s good points very fast, it’s almost like they are highlighted to us and as we get closer we see that this person is full of blemishes.
If someone knows me very well and they choose to be my friend and love me despite my imperfections then I’ve just found a good friend.
What we choose to do with our overall knowledge of this person is where the level of friendship and Gods love comes in.
Do we choose to shine light on this persons strengths to others or do we tell others what we have observed or know about our friends faults.
“Oh yes, she’s super generous but she doesn’t know how to save”
“She’s a good singer but she isn’t good at this and this”
“Yeah she’s got a high paid job but she talks about it too much”
What we decide to say shapes other people’s images of our friends and families.
We choose what words come out our mouth and what we choose to say to others.
I want people to find out that I have been taking behind their back but in a good way, shining light on their good points and speaking life about them.
How amazing if someone finds out you have been talking about them and they say “wow she really said that about me” and instead of feeling hurt they are feeling uplifted and empowered.
There is no perfect person, no perfect family, no perfect church, job, husband or wife. The closer you get you will know and see the amazing and not so amazing parts and it’s a privilege to see those things.
Let’s choose to shine and give life to people, whether they are in the room or not. Speaking life and love about our relationships.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”Ephesians 4:29 NIV