Is it bad or is it good? 

I recently read a story about a lady who had young children and was struggling trying to juggle getting her kids to the beach while carrying all their stuff, while passing an old man he said to his wife “wow weren’t those the days?”. While she was having a hard moment, the man relaxing on the beach was remembering similar situations as cherished times.

It is so easy to simply look ahead or behind. Sometimes thinking and waiting and struggling that this could not a time to look back on and enjoy, but it is. This could be the moment you look back and say “I remember when I had nothing, when my children always wanted me, that I had to study so hard, when I overcame, when I had time. Believing the best is today and that there is purpose in it for our lives is so important!

We can shine through having an Attidude of Gratitude.

“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him” (Colossians 3:17).

We all have stuff to do. If we do it with a good attitude and being excited to do it, it’s gonna bring a possitive result.

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” ‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It says when we do anything without complaining we stand out….we shine.

It’s doesn’t say: when we try be super holy or when we pray or  sing super loud at church. It’s saying when we live day to day with a good attitude we stand out!

Some people always seem to have a problem and some people always have a good story to tell of a victory or something good that’s happened to them. I don’t think “bad” things always happen to the same people and “some people are just lucky”.

It’s all Based on life attitudes and if you read the stories in the bible God really doesn’t like it when we grumble and complain.

If you take a look in the story of Moses it talks about a whole generation of people missing out on the best thing and seeing the promised land because they complained about their situation.

How many great and best things or promises have we missed because we were too busy grumbling about the journey to get there?

Getting a good emotional hygiene is just as important as body hygiene.

Brush teeth – so they are clean and don’t smell, wash face – so you’re clean and fresh, have a shower, stop complaining and put on some of that grateful lotion (it smells really good).

Having dishes to do means food on the table, rent to pay means a roof over our head, report for the boss…. a job, busy studying means the opportunity to get an education, coming early for church a chance to use your gifts, stuck in traffic equals a car that’s working, taking a test another time for progress.

It’s going to effect us and those around us and most importantly who we are as a person when we see things and live with this perspective.

The grass is always greener on the other side……it probably rained a lot over there.

What can you be grateful for and what areas do you need to see God in your situation?

I know so many areas I need to thank God for! I know he doesn’t owe me anything yet he continues to give me so much.

Let’s choose to shine bright like the previous scripture said and if you find yourself in a bad mindset wash some of that negativity off by finding some things to be thankful for.

I wonder who we can impact just by having an attitude of gratitude?

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Overcoming fear

I believe in progress growth and overcoming fear with Gods help is so important to live a healthy and victorious life! 

I have just posted a vlog, How many times have I recorded something and deleted it? I am not sure, but God continues to show me daily that I can’t be held back by the negotive what ifs in my mind but by the what could bes of victories he has in store. 

So many times we miss out because we are too afraid of others, ourselves and what lies we have been told. 

God didn’t give us that fear!

Let’s live in his victories daily, full of his love and power! 

If you want to check my vlogpost click the link 🙂 https://youtu.be/x-KPUL3n7v4

A tough week 

It had been a challenging week, I jumped in the shower and started to pray. “Can you thank me?” I felt God say to me.”What?, thank you? I’m trying to complain…I mean pray. I believe in the power of Jesus, in healing and what we ask in prayer we receive, why is everything going wrong? And why is koa still sick!”

Still the answer was “can you thank me?”

With gritted teeth I reluctantly started to thank God for different things. Having a roof over my head, an awesome family, my friends, our car, my job, our usual health. As I went through the list I became more excited to say more, I felt built up and by the time I was out I was refreshed like a new person as if walls had come down and I had a new sense of faith and fight in me.

My son had a fever of 40 degrees for over a week at that stage, we had done 3 trips to the doctor and 2 to the hospital, chest X-rays, drips and nebulizers. The washing machine broke and we had two air cons that needed to be installed.
After my shower I walked into the room to see my son, the worship music was playing and he was still laying exausted. 

I layed down next to him, he looked at me and put his hands in the air like he was worshiping. It was so cute I copied him and we worshiped together.

Suddenly like a bolt of lighting had stuck him he jumped up, ran into the other room and started playing his little drums!

My husband and I looked at each other and surprised I said “what just happened?”
Koa was jumping, smiling and playing the drums and he had color in his face again.

I checked his temperature and the fever was gone! 
The next day we decided to take the washing machine to the recyclers. It was time to get a new one. We had already done a few trips to the laundry mat and I had been trying to start it all week with no avail. I actually laid hands on it and prayed for it to work like 3 times. Just before we took it to the van my husband suggested we try turn it on one more time. I pushed the start button and it started to work! We cracked up and thanked God for his perfect timing. 

After church the following day the aircon guy came to install our machines, the quote was for $350, with the summer here and our friends with 4 children coming to stay we needed to get it done.

The man went and installed everything and at the end asked for $100 only! 

I was totally blown away, this man came on a Sunday, fit us in last minute and now took more than half off his quote for us!

God gave me the challenge to worship and thank him through my hard time, when I was feeling so low. Could I still put him first and do what he asked. 

It had been a tough week, but through Gods faithfulness and the breakthrough power of worship and thankfulness it became a victorious week! 

“Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” ‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭5:16-18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Getting rid of that weight

“When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.” ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭32:3-4‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Are you keeping something? Trying to hide or push down a bad decision or mistake? 

It will weigh you down and it is not good for your health. Our soul calls for justice and our hearts deserve more than being sapped like the heat of summer.

When we read down the passage in Psalms it’s continues to say something quite liberating.
“ Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin. Therefore let all the faithful pray to you while you may be found; surely the rising of the mighty waters will not reach them. You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.” ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭32:5-7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

When we hide junk in our life, feelings, thoughts, hurts, unforgivness, mistakes, we may feel like we are almost drowning but Intead of letting your guilt pull you down, let Gods grace and love lift you up! 

In one moment we can go from being bound and feeling sucked dry. To surrounded by deliverance and protection. 

Instead of trying to hide within ourselves which causes so much inner termoil, we can hide in him. Get lost in his love and be cleansed in Jesus righteousness and the most amazing thing is there is NOTHING too big or too scary for him.
 God did it for me so much more than what I ever thought possible and he will surely do it for you too! 

His love and forgiveness can be found in an instant, say that sorry, decide to make the change and feel the weight go! 

What’s in your cup?

One day I was chilling at my friends house. We wanted hot chocolates so I made them. When we went to drink them they were not sweet at all they were disgusting and salty! I think I coughed mine all over the kitchen floor.

I mistook the salt for sugar. Her house kept the salt in a little clay pot with a spoon….it looked like sugar. 

It looked right but it wasn’t and it made a huge horrible difference.

Sometimes we mistake something that looks like the right thing when it’s not. 
That guy who is attractive, kind and funny….but is not a Christian. A job which pays well but it doesn’t really go along with your dreams. Losing your cool at the other drivers on the road because they are wrong.Coffee time with the friend who loves to gossip or how about just a few more minutes of social media when it’s full of bad news.
We set out to have a sweet life with balance. But you add one teaspoon of salt in there and it will put a bad taste on the whole of life.
So how can we test and manage what we add and take out? Be real. Look at your values and write them down. What is coming out of you is what is in your heart. Look at your goals and write them down. Look at what Gods word says for you and write it down.

When Jesus is the center and his word is the deciding factor for our decisions some things just become clearer like a nice label. THIS IS SALT. THIS IS SUGAR.
Can you decide to not compromise for what you ultimately want for your life? 
If God is at the top of our list then it becomes easier to do things that side towards him and not emotion, the easy way or social pressure. 
I often sit and “review” what is good for my life and what isn’t. It’s usually in silence (waiting for my son to sleep) but it’s great to put things back on the shelf that aren’t worth putting in my cup and to decide what needs to go in for the next day. 
I found it helps me keep on top of which direction I am heading and how my character is building as a person.

“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”
What will you put in your cup? Anger, gossip, unforgiveness, lust, hurt, envy. 

Or

Love, kindness, generousity, forgiveness, gratitude and laughter.

It’s always our choice to add great things to our lives and if we failed today it’s okay, get a clean cup for tomorrow and start again! 

Choosing to be married

The past few years I’ve had people say to me “You’re so lucky to have a happy marriage” Or “You and Daniel are such great examples of love for me”.

But if you asked anyone in our first 5 years of being married who you would put as a couple you admire or see as great role models of marriage, we would have been at the absolute bottom of the list….actually hang on, we wouldn’t have made the list.

To say our marriage was hard or a struggle is not enough, it was a living disaster. 

We had people recommend us to divorce, leave each other, start again more times than I can count. 

So when people say marriage is hard, I never really could pinpoint what that really meant. Yeah, it was hard…but what was hard and why I couldn’t understand. 

There are a limited amount of choices that you make for a lifetime. Like getting a tattoo, becoming a Christian, having kids and getting married. So when we make that CHOICE to marry this person what should we do next with it? 

Well, marrying someone is a choice and so everyday all day for the rest of your life you need to continue to choose towards your marriage rather than away and if you are both unwilling to make the choices toward the marriage it’ll be hard. 

At first it’s hard to choose right.

And some days it easier than others.

Choosing: 

To love when you don’t feel like it.

To forgive when you are hurt so much.

To give when everything in you just wants to be selfish.

To speak about your spouse in a positive way when you know every bad point.

To talk about your partners strengths when you can see all their weaknesses.

To hold your tongue even though you know just the right words to hurt them.

To put them first though you want to be.

To encourage them though you are feeling discouraged.

To say the uncomfortable when it would be much easier to keep it in.

To pray for them when actually you feel like cursing them.

To spend time with them though you feel there is no time.

To put down your walls.

To be open.

Choosing date nights.

To laugh.

To respect them.

To Pray together.

To stay.

To grow.

To change.

The day and moment we choose “option b” which usually sides towards selfish and fleshly gain rather than our spouses benefit (which is so much easier sometimes) it usually becomes a hard day, but when we choose them rather than self it’s another step forward! 

My husband and I sometimes reflect on why and how we became to enjoy our marriage and each other so much, when it was hard to just get through another week in each others company and it comes down to those every single day choices. 

One day we sat down and we both made the decision. Were we going to do it 100% for each other and with each other or should we not do it at all. Basically we couldn’t keep living between selfishness and selflessness. The middle was meaning destruction. I’m glad we both chose each other again and daily after that. 

I wouldn’t say that marriage becomes easier because you are still you, you have your spouse, you both have to continue to walk next to each other in life and sometimes we get it wrong but for me I would say that the ability and attitude towards your husband and wife can become better and can become easier when you are both choosing to make the right steps daily towards and not away from the marraige. 
Making the right steps becomes easier and more natural and in turn makes the marriage so great and fun and rewarding and love can continue to grow!

One scripture I think is awesome is 1 John 4:12 “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”

‭‭When we choose to love, God really shines through us. How cool is it that when we choose to love our spouses and decide loving actions towards them God is shining through us to them! 

We chose to do life and give our lives to this person so why not continue daily to make that choice too?

I pray that God can and will continue to grow our marraige and yours too no matter what stage or place it is at. That he gives us the ability to love more and more selflessly and to be able to enjoy walking hand in hand through life together every step of the way.